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Re: Hey, Waitress

Katymccully — Mon, 05 Dec 2011 22:37:48 -0000

I came across your blog when I googled "pomahuahua" lol! Not sure how that fits in with your blog, yet, as I haven't had a chance to read your other posts.

If I were to write about my career as a server, my story would mirror yours in many ways. I, too, have been doing this far too long. I'm 30, a mother of two beautiful daughters, and a full-time student. I've been waiting tables since I was 18, but in the industry since I was 15. Reading about how you felt when you ran into ex co-workers or friends is something I can relate to; nothing makes you feel like a total pile of sh*& quite like the encounter with an old acquaintance. I've had the pleasure of running into people I've known since elementary school, and they've been so happy to tell about their wonderful careers as a lawyer, dentist, etc. The look you're given when they see you in your beautiful uniform is just...priceless.

Remind yourself, as I do, that although that girl that was your high school valedictorian and is now making $100 K + as a surgeon, her husband is probably cheating on her and her 4-year-old is still in diapers. Is that too mean? Yeah, maybe, but if it makes you feel better about your current status, then by all means, dream away! :)

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Re: For the Love of Shoes

Simontini Sen — Tue, 08 Nov 2011 20:24:07 -0000

That's so sweet, hon!

Thanx with nice,
Simontini_____*

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Simontini Sen — Tue, 08 Nov 2011 20:13:36 -0000

That's really awesome!

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Simontini Sen — Tue, 08 Nov 2011 20:09:53 -0000

That's a gr8 look ever...!

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Re: Hey, Waitress

kait — Sun, 09 Oct 2011 13:02:41 -0000

girl come back! we miss you!

Re: Hey, Waitress

Rachel — Thu, 22 Sep 2011 13:16:49 -0000

You're such a great storyteller! It will all be worth it.

Re: To Dye or Not to Dye

Erica Joan — Sun, 18 Sep 2011 10:56:04 -0000

my nick name is rogue, if it make you feel better. i have a grey streak just like hers, front and center.i leave it, and have noticed multitudes of grey roots everyday. i give myself til 25, then ill be cruella devil half and style, or, fully silver. to be honest, most people dont even believe that its natural, which makes it more fun. do as you will.

Re: Hey, Waitress

Kait — Thu, 08 Sep 2011 01:34:01 -0000

loved this post!!

Re: Hey, Waitress

Tob. Funke — Tue, 06 Sep 2011 22:23:50 -0000

I wish I was there to honey badger the shit out of them. You know, I get that same look and tone, except it is packaged in the phrase, "You still work at _______." A job doesn't define me, and it could never define you. Your character will always eclipse whatever is printed on your business card (Mine says Analrapist). You posses such talent and passion. My advice to everyone is, get to know your next waitress/waiter. If they are half as interesting as my friend Jess here, you will not regret it. And above all else, treat them as equals. Love you Jess.

Re: Project Macaron, Part One

Jess — Fri, 02 Sep 2011 13:46:57 -0000

Do it! The worst that can happen is that you'll have a bunch of broken macarons to eat! :) Good luck!

Re: Project Macaron, Part One

Jennifer — Fri, 02 Sep 2011 10:43:15 -0000

Hey there. Just found myself rummaging around on your blog and ended up on this post. I've been toying with the idea of trying to bake macarons. They are delicious and really pretty to look at. But when I actually started looking for recipes I was like "heck no, I can't do that!" So many steps and much room for failure! I don't think I can do it! You've inspired me to give it a whirl.

Re: FFBF – My Workspace

Jess — Sun, 28 Aug 2011 13:21:56 -0000

It's so good! And feels "healthier" :)

Re: FFBF – My Workspace

Jenna Mia — Sun, 28 Aug 2011 06:13:20 -0000

"The ever-present cup of coffee. Almond milk, no sugar."

how i drink my coffee! :)

Re: Hey, Waitress

ThatChelseaGirl — Wed, 24 Aug 2011 00:15:19 -0000

Wow. I can relate to this, although I haven't been a waitress since moving back to Texas three years ago (I find it appalling that the state of TX allows waitresses and waiters to be paid less than federal minimum wage). I was a waitress for 8 years. I have had some of the worst things happen to me while being a waitress, yet it's made me the person I am today. Keep your head up, Jess. You're amazing and talented, and good for you, keeping a job instead of not having a job. Please don't ever let someone make you feel like you're less of a person because of that. You're truly an inspiration and the customers, people who point out silly things like your current job status, all they are is rude.

Re: Hey, Waitress

Jess — Fri, 19 Aug 2011 12:03:39 -0000

That sounds terrible! I, too, found that many, many people are just total jerks. Especially when I worked at a certain "frat bar" near campus (coughcainandabelscough). The types of people that would come in were so entitled, so self-important, and then they'd slap their daddy's credit card on the table and leave me a buck. I made some of my best friends working there, but I know what really brought us together was the trauma of dealing with horrible people day in, day out!

Re: Hey, Waitress

Jess — Fri, 19 Aug 2011 12:01:17 -0000

Thanks for sharing that story! I have known many career waiters as I've worked in and out of bars and fine dining establishments, and you're right: they have a skill that most people just don't have, a sort of quiet regard for others that helps them cope with problems. I also learned a lot working in fine dining (I dined on potted foie gras for the better part of a year -- to tell the truth I was a little spoiled!), and wouldn't give up that experience for the world. I don't judge those who choose to stay in the industry -- it can be quite lucrative -- but certainly, on a personal level, feel it's time for me to go. Thanks again :)

Re: Hey, Waitress

Krista Cheech — Fri, 19 Aug 2011 11:34:44 -0000

What a beautifully eloquent post. I have to say I envy you and relate to you all at once. My ex was what I used to call a "career waiter." I was with him for 10 years. He never went to college. Meanwhile, I went to college and pursued my dream while he always made twice as much as I did. We sacrificed a lot. Mostly time together and trips we never took. Whenever I met someone new, I felt compelled to explain what he did for a living. "He's worked for amazing chefs, he works in fine dining, he's a career waiter, he makes way more than I could imagine!" Why did I have to make excuses for him? Because I felt like people looked down on him.

We're no longer together, for very good reasons, but one was never what he did for a living. In fact, years later, I envy the skills he learned in his profession. Relationship building, he never met a person who didn't like him and always had the best advice for me as I tried to build my career. Problem solving, when shit hit the fan, he knew exactly what to do. Multitasker, though he might have had a million things on his plate (literally and figuratively), he could tackle them all without a second thought and with pretty low stress. Nothing was insurmountable. Caregiver. He genuinely LOVED to take care of people and was really good at it. Listener. So self explanatory, but a skill MANY of us lack. And it's not like I necessary lack any of those skills, I just haven't mastered them either. I'm in awe of people who can do all of those things at once with confidence and a positive attitude.

Of all the people I've come in contact with, those who've been servers are the most well rounded people I know. They learned, sometimes the hard way, how to be humble, accommodating, caring and how to be great listeners. I don't believe I've ever been to a restaurant and treated someone with anything but respect. I wish I'd learned how to do it myself! In a pinch, I have no idea what I'd do to make ends meet. I have no back up... which is a daunting thought.

And isn't there some quote about watching how people treat waiters? I couldn't find it online but I did find this:
http://www.usatoday.com/money/...

Regardless, though we all tend to be hard on ourselves, just know that right now you're building character. Which clearly, more people need to be doing. I kind of want to go to where you work just to cheer you on! xoxo

Re: Hey, Waitress

Hawlie Howson — Thu, 18 Aug 2011 22:45:21 -0000

This was a really great post .
When I graduated from college all I could find for the first year was the retail job I had gotten right out of high school. Right by the neighborhood I grew up in. So all the parents of my former classmates growing up would come in and I'd be working there and they'd tell me all about what their kids were up to. I hated it.
More than that I hated how horribly retail people are treated. I started at a fast food restaurant at age 14, then later retail and I cannot believe how horrible a huge portion of the population is. I always keep in mind how much I hated how people treated me that even if I'm having a terrible day, I still try to be pleasant to waiters, grocery store clerks, etc. If it is a fast food restaurant, cafe, whatever, I always bus my own table.
I agree with one of the other commenters - everyone should have to work retail/service industry jobs to learn empathy and compassion.

Re: Hey, Waitress

D'Andra — Thu, 18 Aug 2011 20:50:41 -0000

Never be ashamed of taking care of your family. It takes a strong woman to do whatever it takes to provide for her loved ones. I try to not let others opinions or views of me alter how I feel about myself. I like the person I've become. Sometimes it's hard to feel that way when others are trying to bring you down. I just remind myself why am I letting someone else "tell" me how I should feel about myself. Keep your chin up girl! You are such a wonderfully sweet person don't let crappy people bring you down.

Re: Hey, Waitress

D'Andra — Thu, 18 Aug 2011 20:32:55 -0000

OMG! I'm sure you have seen me and my obnoxious friends there. They go a lot. Sometimes I try to join them.

Re: Hey, Waitress

Jess — Thu, 18 Aug 2011 15:19:35 -0000

It blows my mind that college was sold to everyone as this "way to get ahead," and now even my husband -- who has a PhD! -- can't find a job. I guess it all boils down to networking and being a go-getter. Thanks for sharing!

Re: Hey, Waitress

Jess — Thu, 18 Aug 2011 15:18:17 -0000

Aw :) Thanks sis. This post ended up sounding really whiny and self-loathing, but you know I'm the cockiest person I know!

Re: Hey, Waitress

Jess — Thu, 18 Aug 2011 15:15:58 -0000

The Pourhouse over on Burnet.